Stylin'

Have you ever noticed that people have different ways of interacting when they go out on the town? I am sure there are more categories, and mine are female specific, but using myself, my flatmate and my best mate as examples, there are 3 types. 1. The Diva, 2. the Girl Next Door, and 3. the Queen. My flatmate is 1, I am 2 and Kitty is 3. Let's start with me. It will be slightly inaccurate, because it is hard to describe oneself, but I rarely go talk to someone, look around, let them come to me, use the most of eye contact and body positioning, but will not have any patience for mingers or dullards. Sometimes they are not the same you know. It may sound shy, but I speak to many men and get asked to dance quiet a bit. I am not overly flirty, at first, until I have put some ground feelers on. I think there is a subconcious test i put men through before turning on the romantic charm. I think it is because I don't want the attention, unless I am sure I want it. Quality not quantity darling.

Now the Diva. The yin to my yang, the Diva will talk to anyone, provided drinks are paid for, move around a ton, leave men with drinks in their hands, dance around the dancefloor, talk to men as they walk around with another, and go up and literally grab a guy and throw him at you. It is fab. Respect in the house. Confidence with gusto. Spread the gusto on thick too. It is aggressive, but done with a smile, with a laugh, but most importantly without an agenda, and men don't take offence or get intimidated. They feel lucky.

Last (for now until I define more groups), the Queen. It is not so much about look at me and aggressive flirting, but about defined and controled attention. There is a little power trip. It has an agenda, but very hidden. If you are good. Divas and GNDs can mature into Queens. Queens cannot really be anything else but. They are keen on positioning, body language, verbal swordfights rife with sexual undertones. Like the GND, they are not willing to have their time wasted for the sake of attention. But like the Diva, there is an aggresiveness about getting what they want and when. They control the room more than any other. Queen and GND work well together too, its a very sophisticated combination. However, I think Queen gets annoyed some because the GNDs non-game and lack of control can seem too naive and invite time-wasting situations.

I notice that when in the presence of another GND, I tend to instantly grow Queen and Diva limbs and add that into mixture, making up for the lack of that. I will be more aggressive, and be more concious of room control. however, i must admit that as i spiral into drunken oblivion, i go into sloppy mode which is a horrible mixture of all three, resembling a frankentstein of style, guaranteed to get one into trouble. Or maybe it is like the Sex and the City Effect, where no one woman is like any one of the chics, but a mixture of all!