Psycho Pretty
Some great recent advice, in a succinct statement, i received not too long ago was Don't waste the pretty. This is one of the themes in this book titled: He is Just Not That Into You. I haven't read the book, because i think i "get that point" without having to go back to remedial dating school. But apparently the author uses the phrase as a mantra in the book. As was explained to me, if girl has feelings for guy, and guy does not appear through his actions to be reciprocating, eg calling you for dates, emailing you, texting you, or other general "let me connect with you by getting to know you" actions, then RATHER THAN staying at home crying, being frustrated, dwelling thereby winding yourself up in a self imposed self esteem deluvian theme park, pick yourself up, go about your business, enjoy the weather, a park, your friends, write a letter...but don't wind your self up and dwell and waste your time on doing nothing positive for you. don't. Waste. the Pretty.
I really love this phrase. Its quick and quirky. I don't need the phrase in the sense that i should stop winding myself up. Although at times i find myself frustrated that I would like to talk to a guy, or go out with him, but...do you hear that...that's right its the silence of my mobile...I am not getting the opportunity because i work from the American premise if they are not calling you, they don't want to hang out with you...but i don't stay at home and become upset and feel sorry for myself. I have many other things to do, and see, whether on my own (and i do need my Me Time) or with one of my friends here in London. And i may have a small circle, but they are Quality and i often thank gods and angels for my blessings there. Or, i go out with other dates that I have lined up, or I go out and find other dates... this was really easy to do when Kat was here, we will have to see how it goes now.
Yet, ironically the girl that told me about this phrase, and the book (which i will not read) is a psychopathic liar freaky insecure girl! she had this SWF crush on my friend's husband, and projected all of that nervous sexual energy on his brother, and caused a huge scene amongst the family, all this while donning brothers clothes, traipsing around his house, whilst he was out of town. And then proceeding to call the brother who she hooked up with, by the husband's name...
How can a bad thing, create a positive? Out of the mouth of psychos...I think my point is here..(sorry!) is that advice can be good even if the person writing or saying it has complete inability to heed it themselves. And the purest person perhaps can give crap advice. Evaluate everything yourself, and use your mind. I mean, if you want to waste your pretty... Whatever.
but, yes, if you haven't guessed, i did go on a date last week and it was fun and we vibed; there was mental respect and chemical charm! we both are people of quality and appreciated it in each other. yes, he is a player, but that is my pitch too. I cut my teeth on some of the best; he is a handful but i can handle. BUT it would be really nice if the dude would call. but he hasn't. sigh. i hate when it is on their time table, and not mine. so off i go, to see friends and occupy my mind with other dates.
I really love this phrase. Its quick and quirky. I don't need the phrase in the sense that i should stop winding myself up. Although at times i find myself frustrated that I would like to talk to a guy, or go out with him, but...do you hear that...that's right its the silence of my mobile...I am not getting the opportunity because i work from the American premise if they are not calling you, they don't want to hang out with you...but i don't stay at home and become upset and feel sorry for myself. I have many other things to do, and see, whether on my own (and i do need my Me Time) or with one of my friends here in London. And i may have a small circle, but they are Quality and i often thank gods and angels for my blessings there. Or, i go out with other dates that I have lined up, or I go out and find other dates... this was really easy to do when Kat was here, we will have to see how it goes now.
Yet, ironically the girl that told me about this phrase, and the book (which i will not read) is a psychopathic liar freaky insecure girl! she had this SWF crush on my friend's husband, and projected all of that nervous sexual energy on his brother, and caused a huge scene amongst the family, all this while donning brothers clothes, traipsing around his house, whilst he was out of town. And then proceeding to call the brother who she hooked up with, by the husband's name...
How can a bad thing, create a positive? Out of the mouth of psychos...I think my point is here..(sorry!) is that advice can be good even if the person writing or saying it has complete inability to heed it themselves. And the purest person perhaps can give crap advice. Evaluate everything yourself, and use your mind. I mean, if you want to waste your pretty... Whatever.
but, yes, if you haven't guessed, i did go on a date last week and it was fun and we vibed; there was mental respect and chemical charm! we both are people of quality and appreciated it in each other. yes, he is a player, but that is my pitch too. I cut my teeth on some of the best; he is a handful but i can handle. BUT it would be really nice if the dude would call. but he hasn't. sigh. i hate when it is on their time table, and not mine. so off i go, to see friends and occupy my mind with other dates.
posted by miss goLondon at 4:47 PM
4 Comments:
Ah, the whole *He's Just Not That Into you!*. A great philosophy, really. Until my (male) flatmates read it, and rubbished it. Apparently it's BAD DATING ADVICE.
And not waste the pretty! xx
Ooops, still tipsy. What I meant to say was don't waste the pretty. *Sigh* But I gather you got that.
I have way too much "quality me time." And at this point, all the guys I know are just not into me. Which, given the quality of guys I've met lately, is not necessarily a bad thing.
lady M,
what do your male flatmates say about HJNTIU? haven't read it, but i have yet to figure out all the differences between American and British male dating mentality. And there are many, some subtle, some not.
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