Ive got my orange crush
His hair is not orange, but a dark auburn. but absolutely do I have a crush on him.
My wing chun instructor (WCI). Who I have mentioned before.
After allowing myself to fruitlessly analyse the situation until I wore holes in the fabric, I he just might find me attractive too.
My arguments are thus. When I met him I instantly thought wow. I don't mean the thought oh he is nice looking, I mean chemistry wow; your body is reacting without your brain working in conjunction. This rarely happens to me. I seldom have true chemistry with someone. Unfortunately, when I do, I am deluded into thinking it is special and make rash judgements accordingly. However, the few times I have had chemistry with someone, as opposed to "liking them", the physical bit has always been reciprocated. Up to a point. What one has to learn is, reciprocity does not equal relationship. . So from there, I think that chemistry does not equal love, but to be in love you need chemistry as an ingredient in that primordial soup.
Unfortunately, and why I rarely have relationships, every guy that I have experienced chemistry with has been emotionally unavailable for a relationship. Lesson: G, the guy at work. the only guy in the UK that this has happened with. and No, definitely not with my last boyfriend. Whether chemistry is there because of unavailability, or I have bad luck, is an entirely different post. Thus, from my pov with WCI, chemistry is present, and history supports a high probability that he feels something too.
There had been a month hiatus of class because we ran out of a venue. WCI attraction aside, I really enjoy this class. I prodded the business owner R to start them up again (send an email to prod, of course I did). I could not go to last week's first-time back class, but went last night. And here are the signs that I am presenting for analysis.
A group of us entered the venue together and WCI was there already; upon seeing me he smiles and says "hayyyeee" in greeting. To no one else.
After initial drills we relax our drills stance, and my back hurts so I do a stretch and kind of go, "mhhmmmhm", like a low moan. Now, I am in back of the class, and my back began to hurt a bit because I have been moving boxes relating to flat move, for over a week (first to and fro, and now internally in our flat). I bend back up and he is looking at me, concerned, and mouths, are you okay? I smile and say yes, fine. It seems as if, although I am at the back of the room, and there are 7 other people, he is looking at me. And I am not making a production out of my stretch. Conclusion, he is paying me attention.
His assistant, A, helped myself and my drill partner on some moves. Eventually WCI came over and watched and then gave some help and said, "good job". I said, well, A has been helping us, ie I am only doing well because I have been helped. Then he laughs, makes eye contact and says, you sound like you are emphasising that A has been helping you and not me. I pause for a second because I am thinking, this sounds like flirting, and I said, no not really, but now that you say that..., [and smile back].
Class ends and I begin talking to Miss K, another drill partner I had, who is also a lawyer. We walk out together and I decide to leave without saying hi, or thanks, to WCI. What is the point of the extra face time? There are several newer people in the class, including women, and they might think, oh so she is the one that flirts with WCI. That and being shy is the easy route. I walk back to the studio where I had changed (and where we originally had our classes), retreived bag and walked around the corner to the bus stop. I was hoping to have seen him after I grabbed my bag, but I know he drove to the venue so I thought oh well, mentally blowing him a kiss in my head.
As usual, but this time fortunately, the bus was not arriving any time soon. Then I see three guys walking my way towards the studio: the WCI, A and a guy who helps run the studio. We see each other, and I wave. Guy goes to studio, A walks by me along side WCI, and asks him if he wants some noodles from the takeout place. WCI says no and stops in front of me to say hi. Do we get that, he walks over to me to chat. The other 2 guys go other ways.
So we chat. Blob blob work, class tonight, he asks if I plan on continuing and if Tuesdays is good, were my drill partners okay, blob blob. Is your back all right? how have you been during the break, you did a good job, ...all the while we are smiling at each other, mirroring each other's body language, and well, I do believe flirting. Then he takes his leave and goes to the studio. Considering that was his destination, he could have waved to me and gone straight there. But no, he came over and chatted about blob all for 5ish minutes.
Well. That is my analysis. I have no idea what to do with it. Maybe I will turn it into a short story with some steamy sex scenes. We live in single world searching for someone to share with, who wants to share back, but being single is so much fun too. So i have found orange crush...lets move on to dr. pepper and mr. pibb....as long as they are going nowhere anyway, let's just add to the pile.
My wing chun instructor (WCI). Who I have mentioned before.
After allowing myself to fruitlessly analyse the situation until I wore holes in the fabric, I he just might find me attractive too.
My arguments are thus. When I met him I instantly thought wow. I don't mean the thought oh he is nice looking, I mean chemistry wow; your body is reacting without your brain working in conjunction. This rarely happens to me. I seldom have true chemistry with someone. Unfortunately, when I do, I am deluded into thinking it is special and make rash judgements accordingly. However, the few times I have had chemistry with someone, as opposed to "liking them", the physical bit has always been reciprocated. Up to a point. What one has to learn is, reciprocity does not equal relationship. . So from there, I think that chemistry does not equal love, but to be in love you need chemistry as an ingredient in that primordial soup.
Unfortunately, and why I rarely have relationships, every guy that I have experienced chemistry with has been emotionally unavailable for a relationship. Lesson: G, the guy at work. the only guy in the UK that this has happened with. and No, definitely not with my last boyfriend. Whether chemistry is there because of unavailability, or I have bad luck, is an entirely different post. Thus, from my pov with WCI, chemistry is present, and history supports a high probability that he feels something too.
There had been a month hiatus of class because we ran out of a venue. WCI attraction aside, I really enjoy this class. I prodded the business owner R to start them up again (send an email to prod, of course I did). I could not go to last week's first-time back class, but went last night. And here are the signs that I am presenting for analysis.
A group of us entered the venue together and WCI was there already; upon seeing me he smiles and says "hayyyeee" in greeting. To no one else.
After initial drills we relax our drills stance, and my back hurts so I do a stretch and kind of go, "mhhmmmhm", like a low moan. Now, I am in back of the class, and my back began to hurt a bit because I have been moving boxes relating to flat move, for over a week (first to and fro, and now internally in our flat). I bend back up and he is looking at me, concerned, and mouths, are you okay? I smile and say yes, fine. It seems as if, although I am at the back of the room, and there are 7 other people, he is looking at me. And I am not making a production out of my stretch. Conclusion, he is paying me attention.
His assistant, A, helped myself and my drill partner on some moves. Eventually WCI came over and watched and then gave some help and said, "good job". I said, well, A has been helping us, ie I am only doing well because I have been helped. Then he laughs, makes eye contact and says, you sound like you are emphasising that A has been helping you and not me. I pause for a second because I am thinking, this sounds like flirting, and I said, no not really, but now that you say that..., [and smile back].
Class ends and I begin talking to Miss K, another drill partner I had, who is also a lawyer. We walk out together and I decide to leave without saying hi, or thanks, to WCI. What is the point of the extra face time? There are several newer people in the class, including women, and they might think, oh so she is the one that flirts with WCI. That and being shy is the easy route. I walk back to the studio where I had changed (and where we originally had our classes), retreived bag and walked around the corner to the bus stop. I was hoping to have seen him after I grabbed my bag, but I know he drove to the venue so I thought oh well, mentally blowing him a kiss in my head.
As usual, but this time fortunately, the bus was not arriving any time soon. Then I see three guys walking my way towards the studio: the WCI, A and a guy who helps run the studio. We see each other, and I wave. Guy goes to studio, A walks by me along side WCI, and asks him if he wants some noodles from the takeout place. WCI says no and stops in front of me to say hi. Do we get that, he walks over to me to chat. The other 2 guys go other ways.
So we chat. Blob blob work, class tonight, he asks if I plan on continuing and if Tuesdays is good, were my drill partners okay, blob blob. Is your back all right? how have you been during the break, you did a good job, ...all the while we are smiling at each other, mirroring each other's body language, and well, I do believe flirting. Then he takes his leave and goes to the studio. Considering that was his destination, he could have waved to me and gone straight there. But no, he came over and chatted about blob all for 5ish minutes.
Well. That is my analysis. I have no idea what to do with it. Maybe I will turn it into a short story with some steamy sex scenes. We live in single world searching for someone to share with, who wants to share back, but being single is so much fun too. So i have found orange crush...lets move on to dr. pepper and mr. pibb....as long as they are going nowhere anyway, let's just add to the pile.
posted by miss goLondon at 1:15 PM
6 Comments:
You need to suggest private tuition, one on one, talk about how to channel energy into your entry points or other nefarious flirtatious mumbo jumbo... if he's interested and not gay, you'll quickly find things moving where you want them.
Remember, if you think he's into you, HE IS INTO YOU. Your ability as a woman to interpret body language is better than his ability to suppress it.
Otherwise, just go with what you want and assume he wants the same. If he rejects you, so what? His loss.
J
But he didn't even offer you a lift!
I thought he drove to the venue!
He wants you!
Just go for it! And we want to hear all the steamy details when you do!
Well, speaking as someone who understands the art of flirting all too well... yes, that seems to have been flirting of a mutual nature. My advice is to continue to monitor and report back, and we'll be sure to keep you on track.
That, or just jump him.
Have a wonderful weekend, Holly x
Hello,
How are you? I am Nab Raj Roshyara from Germany but Origionally, I am Nepalese. I am planning to travel to England next month and I have never been there. I thought , I should start a friendship with you so that I could know more about it. I would be glad if you could accept for a friendship and keep in touch
my email address is : roshyara@yahoo.com
Greetings and have a nice weeekend
Nab
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