Can there be more than1 VIP Pass?
i did something v cheeky. i went on a quasi date last night.
a guy i met through my concierge club, which has a new membership IM forum.
Now, this is scandelous because i am quite serious with Builder Boy. I know he thinks it is serious. And i am feeling more and more comfortable about being with him commitedly. gulp.
i think it is a good sign when we can spend all weekend together without annoying one another. Clearly, still in the beginning romantic phase of relationship.
so why am i meeting another guy out for drinks? to test how i felt about it. do i want to see other people?
although i thought the guy was good looking, i did not feel comfortable about being there. i felt like i was being inconsiderate to BB. And i realised that i don't think i want to see other people. my ego doesn't need it. i compare other guys to BB. i dont think i am doing something right by lying about where i was that night. simply, there is a disconnect between my habitual self and where i am now and i need to close that gap.
but wait, what about last post, ohing and ahhing over WCI. well, i believe that it is possible to care for and be attracted to more than one person. So be it. but we chose just one to be in a defined relationship with. And WCI is not a choice. he is a flavour, or even a potential flavour. What i do have is a lovely guy that keeps getting lovlier calling and texting and making me laugh. And it seems to me that in the past few weeks i have seen several examples of guys with loads of money treating women very poorly. The moral of that sentance being that although initially uncomfortable and anxious over long term compatibility because the man does not make so much, it does not detract from his positive points, and i have yet to see many examples of where these cash machine guys are collecting enought positive points to even grab half a free sunday times dinner.
lastly, i have a new phrase. VIP PASS - the metaphor for when someone has passed your barriers and you decide you want to have sex with them.
a guy i met through my concierge club, which has a new membership IM forum.
Now, this is scandelous because i am quite serious with Builder Boy. I know he thinks it is serious. And i am feeling more and more comfortable about being with him commitedly. gulp.
i think it is a good sign when we can spend all weekend together without annoying one another. Clearly, still in the beginning romantic phase of relationship.
so why am i meeting another guy out for drinks? to test how i felt about it. do i want to see other people?
although i thought the guy was good looking, i did not feel comfortable about being there. i felt like i was being inconsiderate to BB. And i realised that i don't think i want to see other people. my ego doesn't need it. i compare other guys to BB. i dont think i am doing something right by lying about where i was that night. simply, there is a disconnect between my habitual self and where i am now and i need to close that gap.
but wait, what about last post, ohing and ahhing over WCI. well, i believe that it is possible to care for and be attracted to more than one person. So be it. but we chose just one to be in a defined relationship with. And WCI is not a choice. he is a flavour, or even a potential flavour. What i do have is a lovely guy that keeps getting lovlier calling and texting and making me laugh. And it seems to me that in the past few weeks i have seen several examples of guys with loads of money treating women very poorly. The moral of that sentance being that although initially uncomfortable and anxious over long term compatibility because the man does not make so much, it does not detract from his positive points, and i have yet to see many examples of where these cash machine guys are collecting enought positive points to even grab half a free sunday times dinner.
lastly, i have a new phrase. VIP PASS - the metaphor for when someone has passed your barriers and you decide you want to have sex with them.
posted by miss goLondon at 12:54 PM
3 Comments:
I think that's an important realisation, and a healthy one, Hols. And I agree about the other preoccupation being just a... well, a preoccupation.
(Now... where did I put that pass...)
The trick is to co-ordinate the VIP Pass and the opening times!
Both parties should be in mutual agreement?
VIP PASS - fantastic.
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